wish motherhood came with a pause button

I Wish Motherhood Came with a Pause Button

Hey Mommies! Do you ever wish motherhood came with a pause button??

We just finished Christmas. The new year is rapidly approaching, and I feel like life is just flying by!

The regular routine of work, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, laundry, etc, PLUS the addition of holiday activities: buying gifts, wrapping gifts, sending Christmas cards, visiting friends and family, going to holiday parties, and just realizing that another year is about over has made me really wish motherhood came with a pause button.

With a pause button, I could slow down and just enjoy some moments a little longer.

Since becoming a mom, I constantly feel torn in a million directions. I of course want to be a good mom and do the best I can for my son, but I’m also still a wife, friend, daughter, granddaughter, daughter in law, sister in law, and occupational therapist. Plus, I try to maintain some sense of self.

Having all these roles can get so stressful, and I often feel like I’m not doing the best I can in any of them.

If I just had a pause button and could freeze time for a few minutes,  I feel like the days wouldn’t get away from me so fast. I could have a few more minutes everyday to play with my son without feeling rushed to get to work, get some laundry done, or get to the store.

I could give my husband, my mom, and in laws some undivided attention without thinking about the million other things I need to get done and be working on.

I could go out with a friend, go get a haircut, do some shopping for myself, or catch up on work stuff without feeling like I’m missing out on time with my husband and son.

Time always seemed to go by a little faster the older I got, but since becoming a mom, it seems that time flies by at hyper speed! Sometimes I feel like I’m going to blink and be 80, and my son will be grown with children of his own and maybe children of their own!

I sometimes feel like I’m going to miss out on a moment because I’m stressing about something that needs to be done. This is when I wish I could just hit pause.

BUT, since motherhood doesn’t come with a pause button, I just do the best I can. As I’m sure all moms do. Some days I do sacrifice time with my husband and son to get a little bit of friend time or “me” time.

Sometimes I turn down offers to go out with friends so I can stay home and have a family night.

Some days…ok a lot of days… the laundry doesn’t get done or the house doesn’t get picked up because I’m spending time with my son, working on work stuff, spending time with family, or doing something for myself. Plus, who likes to do the laundry or clean the house?? 😉

BUT on the flip side of that, I sometimes put off work stuff or something I’d like to be doing in order to get things done around the house.

It’s definitely all a balance but sometimes it’d be really nice if a pause button was included with motherhood.

By: Emily Bettis, MOT/L

Emily Bettis, MOT/L is a pediatric occupational therapist and mother. She has been working with children birth-5 since 2008 and has been a mother since 2013. Emily is the founder and author HeyMommies.com