Hey mommies, as our babies grow and develop we always dwell on the firsts, but do you ever think about “The lasts”?
We just transitioned our son to a big boy bed. The night before the transition really got me thinking, “This is the last night he’ll be sleeping in his crib.” While we were all very excited to make this transition to a new big boy bed, it also made me sad as I would never again lay him in his crib. It also ended up being the last night I rocked him in his rocking chair before bed. 🙁
When you have kids, everyone makes a big deal about the firsts. The first smile, the first tooth, the first word, the first steps, etc. These are in fact, really big deals, but do you ever stop to think about the lasts??
At some point with every child, there will be the last bottle they take, the last time they sleep in a crib, the last time they are rocked, the last time they wear a diaper, the last time they ask to be held, the last time they call you mommy and so on.
Parenting is full of incredibly frustrating moments. Hearing “Mommy hold you!!” a million times in 15 minutes, whining, crying, and kicking on the floor, when all you need to do is finish your hair and makeup, can push anyone to their limits! But, it’s often in these moments that I take a breath and think about the lasts.
These moments won’t last forever. One day will be the last. One day my son won’t be asking me to hold him. He won’t want my undivided attention every minute of every day, and my frustration and annoyance will be replaced by shock and awe at how time has flown and my baby isn’t a baby anymore.
By thinking of the lasts, it helps me stay calm and appreciate what’s right there in front of me in that moment no matter how frustrating and annoying it may be. If my son wants a few extra minutes of my time, I do what I can to give it to him. If he wants to be held, I take a second to pick him up, give him a squeeze, and tell him I love him.
Being aware of the lasts also helps me reflect and appreciate the moments that I know are the lasts, like the last night my son slept in his crib. Before you know it, everything is done and passed in the blink of an eye, and there’s nothing you can do to get it back.
So go crazy and celebrate all those firsts, but also take a second to think about the lasts.
By: Emily Bettis, MOT/L
Emily Bettis, MOT/L is a pediatric occupational therapist and mother. She has been working with children birth-5 since 2008 and has been a mother since 2013. Emily is the founder and author HeyMommies.com